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The QE Parenting Library

 Is your easy-going son starting to give you attitude?  Is your daughter spending all her time “chatting” with friends on MSN?  Concerned that homework and the pressures of extracurricular activities are stressing your teen out?

 If you’d like some help with these and the myriad of other tween - and teen - related challenges, check out QE’s new Parenting Resource Library.  This collection of 122 award-winning, best-selling parenting books, 21 CD's and 18 DVD's are available on loan — at no charge — to QE parents for a three-week period.  A description of each book, CD and DVD is listed below.  If you see a title you’d like to borrow, please email School  Council at qeschoolcouncil@gmail.com  and arrangements will be made to send the book, CD or DVD home with your son or daughter.

Here are the titles currently available to QE parents and caregivers:

 BOOKS

 The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families by Stephen R. Covey   (2 copies)

Steven R. Covey presents a practical and philosophical guide to solving the problems--large and small, mundane and extraordinary--that confront all families and strong communities. By offering revealing anecdotes about ordinary people as well as helpful suggestions about changing everyday behavior, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families" shows how and why to have family meetings, the importance of keeping promises, how to balance individual and family needs, and how to move from dependence to interdependence. "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families" is an invaluable guidebook to the welfare of families everywhere.

 The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey   (2 copies)

In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, author Stephen R. Covey presents a holistic, integrated, principle-centered approach for solving personal and professional problems. With penetrating insights and pointed anecdotes, Covey reveals a step-by-step pathway for living with fairness, integrity, service, and human dignity -- principles that give us the security to adapt to change and the wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates.

 The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey

Being a teenager means making important life decisions.  But it doesn't mean life has to be tough.  Using language and real-life teen scenarios, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers speaks convincingly about relationships, peers, parents, school and life choices offering direction and specific skill training to help teens make informed decisions. The book helps teens create their own unique destinies at a time when everything often seems overwhelming and complex.  An entertaining, step-by-step guide to help teens improve self-image, build friendships, resist peer pressure, achieve their goals, get along with their parents, and much more.

 12 Simple Secrets Moms Know: Getting Back to Basics and Raising Happy Kids by Michele Borba   (2 copies)

Heart-warming insights into raising children with confidence, resilience and character, based on a survey of 5,000 real moms for their experience and wisdom in raising happier, more confident kids by returning to a more natural, authentic kind of mothering.  She shares 12 top secrets of successful moms culled from her research and shows how to apply them to your family.

 You'll learn how to: 

Apply the 12 essential principles that child experts and 5,000 parents say matter most in good mothering.

Raise children with confidence, resilience, and character.

Create a customized mothering plan and use it so it leads to success with your child.

Cut the guilt and reduce the stress by sticking to what really counts in parenting good kids today.

Discover simple ways to make big differences in your family's life.

 Active Parenting of Teens by Michael H. Popkin

Here's a book covering the time-honored basics of parenting a teen while also addressing today's hot topics.  You'll learn what's going on in a teen's head, and why they do the things they do.  You'll learn how to open up lines of communication, encourage cooperation and responsibility, solve problems and discipline effectively.  This book also presents 10 strategies for preventing problems relating to drugs, alcohol, violence and sex

 Ageless Body, Timeless Mind by Deepak Chopra, M.D.

There is nothing inevitable about aging--that is the inspiring message from Dr. Deepak Chopra.  In the phenomenal bestseller (over one million hardcover copies in print), Dr. Chopra reveals how, thanks to the extraordinary healing power of the mind-body connection, you can retain vitality, creativity, memory, and self-esteem as you age

 Am I A Normal Parent?:  Expert Advice, Parenting Tips, and The Reassurance You've Been Looking For by Sara Dimerman

Am I A Normal Parent? features a powerful self-assessment quiz that will quickly help you understand what is wrong (and right) in your parenting style.  Just by answering 50 easy-to-complete, highly revealing questions, you will know if what you are thinking, doing, and feeling as a parent is normal ... or not and what can be done about it.

Analyze Yourself:  A Teen’s Guide to Understanding Their Friends, Parents, and Themselves by Dr. Karyn Gordon

Although this resource is in the self-help genre, the subtitle certainly indicates it may be of interest to adolescents.  With self-esteem as the focus, the author has used a format and writing style that will appeal to high school students.  Whether the topic is friendship, anger, body image, or ways to feel good about yourself, the advice is practical and applicable.  The index provides easy access to the contents.

The Attention Deficit Answer Book by Alan Wachtel, M.D.

While Dr. Wachtel advocates the use of appropriate medications, including Ritalin, Dexedrine, and anti-depressants.  Dr. Wachtel's belief is that ADHD--which affects more than one million children--is more than a biological problem; it affects a child's self-esteem, social life, and his or her ability to perform well in school.  In this book, Dr. Wachtel provides a balanced, sensible, and comprehensive approach to treating ADHD. 

Born to Rebel – Birth Order, Family Dynamics and Creative Lives by Frank J. Sollonay

Why do people raised in the same families often differ more dramatically in personality and temperament than those from different families?  What made Charles Darwin, Benjamin Franklin, and Voltaire uniquely suited to challenge the conventional wisdom of their times?  This book details a pioneering new theory of the significance of birth order that envisions the family as an ecosystem in which siblings compete for parental resources by occupying specific niches.

A Brief History of Anxiety – Yours & Mine by Patricia Pearson

Patricia Pearson gives a witty, insightful and highly personal look at recognizing and coping with fears and anxieties in our contemporary world.

The millions of North Americans who silently cope with anxiety at last have a witty, articulate champion in Patricia Pearson, who shows that the anxious are hardly "nervous nellies" with "weak characters" who just need medicine and a pat on the head.  Instead, Pearson questions what it is about today's culture that is making people anxious, and offers some surprising answers-as well as some inspiring solutions based on her own fierce battle to drive the beast away.

Drawing on personal episodes of incapacitating dread as a vivid, often hilarious guide to her quest to understand this most ancient of human emotions, Pearson delves into the history and geography of anxiety.  Why are North Americans so much more likely to suffer than Latin Americans?  Why did Darwin treat hypochondria with sprays from a hose?  Why have we forgotten the insights of some of our greatest philosophers, theologians and psychologists in favor of prescribing addictive drugs?  In this blend of fascinating reportage and poignant memoir, Pearson ends with her struggle to withdraw from antidepressants and to find more self-aware and philosophically-grounded ways to strengthen the soul.

Building Moral Intelligence:  The Seven Essential Virtues That Teach Kids to Do the Right Thing by Michele Borba

In this indispensable book for parents, Borba has created a new break-through in conceptualizing and teaching virtue, character and values under the auspices of a measurable capacity -- Moral Intelligence.  This book confronts the front-page crisis we now face in our country regarding youth violence, alienation, self-destructive behavior, cold-heartedness, and lack of compassion, insensitivity, intolerance and the breakdown of values.  The author provides a new way to understand, evaluate and inspire our kids with the seven essential virtues which comprise moral intelligence.  A treasure trove of practical ideas to help children build skills that will make cruel, selfish and destructive behavior unthinkable.

The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander:  From Pre-school to High School — How Parents Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence by Barbara Coloroso

It's the deadliest combination going: bullies who get what they want from their target, bullied kids who are afraid to tell, bystanders who either watch, participate, or look away, and adults who see the incidents as simply "teasing" and a normal part of childhood. We have only to look to the headlines to understand that this is a recipe for tragedy. Some bullying victims, their cries unheard, have fought back with violence that has devastated entire communities; others have committed suicide; many more suffer in silence, their lives a constant round of emotional and physical pain. In The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander, Barbara Coloroso gives parents, caregivers, educators-and most of all, kids-the tools to break the cycle of violence.

Children Who Do Too Little (includes a discussion guide) by Patricia Sprinkle

Using stories and plenty of humor, the author argues persuasively and entertainingly, that children need to do chores--to develop basic life skills to learn responsibility, and learn how to become dependable, capable adults. She gives helpful suggestions for making chores part of a child's routine including appropriate tasks for different ages, how to get children to work, easy cleaning tips and more

Class Warfare:  The Assault on Canada’s Schools by Maude Barlow

True or false?  Today's kids are growing up illiterate and totally unprepared for life in a high-tech future. The liberal left-wing curriculum has turned Canada's schools into the nursery of the welfare state.  Class Warfare: The Assault on Canada's Schools tackles these questions and takes a highly controversial look at the present condition of Canada's embattled public education system.

The Dance of Intimacy – A Woman’s Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships by Harriet G. Lerner

Well-known psychotherapist Dr. Harriet Learner has helped millions of women with relationship problems. In this book the author outlines the steps to take so that good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones can be healed.  Taking a careful look at those relationships where intimacy is most challenged – by too much distance, too much intensity, or too much pain – she teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others.  Combining clear advice with vivid case examples, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, helpful book on intimate relationships that both men and women may ever encounter.

The Difficult Child by Stanley Turecki

Stanley Turecki has brought relief to millions of parents with his revolutionary understanding of parenting.  He offers you a 10-step checklist to define your child`s temperament, identifying specific problem areas.  He tells you how to kindly - but firmly - deal with the usual conflicts, making your punishments both more effective and less severe.  He also tells you how to respond to your child as an individual and cultivate their creativity and potential for positive thinking.  This invaluable guide also helps you understand ADHD and ADD and lets you know if you should seek a professional diagnosis. 

The Disappearance of Childhood by Neil Postman

From the vogue for nubile models to the explosion in the juvenile crime rate, this modern classic of social history and media traces the precipitous decline of childhood in America today and the corresponding threat to the notion of adulthood.  Deftly marshaling a vast array of historical and demographic research, Neil Postman suggests that childhood is a relatively recent invention, which came into being as the new medium of print imposed divisions between children and adults.  But now these divisions are eroding under the barrage of television, which turns the adult secrets of sex and violence into popular entertainment and pitches both news and advertising at the intellectual level of ten-year olds.

The Divorce Handbook for Kids by Cynthia MacGregor

Divorce is tough on kids.  MacGregor knows how tough it can be, and she has prepared a down-to-earth guide that genuinely helps.  Included are discussions of many topics troubling kids when their parents’ divorce:  reasons parents get divorced; ways the divorce will change kids’ lives; kids' feelings about divorce; things kids can do to help them feel better (and reassurance that they are not to blame); who to talk to; and what's likely to happen next.

This isn’t just a book about divorce, but about life after divorce; visitation, custody, straddling two households, and making it all work

Down Syndrome (A Parent’s Guide to) by Siegfried M. Pueschel

This text teaches not just what to expect as your child with Down syndrome grows but what you can hope for in terms of health, schooling, and your child’s life in the community. It includes reassuring guidance, and straightforward explanations.

Dr. Karyn:  Guide to the Teen Years by Dr. Karyn Gordon

DR. KARYN'S GUIDE TO THE TEEN YEARS is a book that stands alone amid other parenting guides.  Dr. Karyn's Guide to the Teen Years is firmly based on what teens actually think, feel and do.  Dr. Karyn explains the recent research that shows the teen brain is actually different and reveals how this difference radically affects adolescent - and parent - behaviours. Unlock the secret to a happier, healthier parent-teen relationship.

Drive:  9 Ways to Motivate Your Kids to Achieve by Janine Walker Caffrey

The quality of drive provides the momentum for a person to dream and achieve, creating a unique, independent life.  How do you inspire your children to develop this vital characteristic?  How do I get my child excited about learning?  To enrol in a good college?  To move out of the house?  To create his own life?  Designed to assist parents, educators, and counsellors to get kids of all ages off the couch and into the world, Drive outlines nine specific steps proven to beat boredom and foster self-motivation and resourcefulness.  Filled with quizzes, anecdotes, and practical strategies, Drive helps parents turn "Generation Me" into "Generation Move."

The Dysfunctional School Uncomfortable Truths and Awkward Insights on School, Learning and Teaching by Michael Reist

Here is a book that looks at schools from the inside, from the point of view of a classroom teacher who has spent a career trying to understand how schools work – and don’t work.

In a collection of short reflections, the author describes some of the dysfunctional attitudes and behaviours that diminish learning and hurt children.

The Dysfunctional School is a call to all adults responsible for the care of young people to question the traditional approaches of what the author refers to as “factory schooling.”

The Elephant in the Playroom by Denise Brodey

Candid, passionate, personal, and heartbreakingly funny, a view from within the whirlwind of parenting a child with special needs.  The book offers readers comfort, community and much-needed perspective.

In The Elephant in the Playroom, moms and dads from across the country write intimately and honestly about the joyful highs and disordered lows of raising children who are "not quite normal."  Laying bare the emotional, medical, and social challenges they face, their stories address issues ranging from if and when to medicate a child, to how to get a child who is overly sensitive to the texture of food to eat lunch.  Eloquent and honest, the voices in this collection will provide solace and support for the millions of parents whose kids struggle with ADD, ADHD, sensory disorders, childhood depression, Asperger's syndrome, and autism--as well as the many kids who fall between diagnoses.

Family First - Your Step-By-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family by Dr. Phil McGraw

From Dr. Phil’s Letter to Parents:  I want to talk to you about family: yours and mine.  I know and feel that as parents, you and I share some very important priorities.  Just like you, I love my family more than anything in this world and I want us all to be safe, healthy, happy and prosperous in everything we do both within our family and as we go out into the world.  Cynics will tell you that in our fast-paced society "family" is becoming obsolete, that it is just an old-fashioned, lost concept, getting buried in a busy world of "enlightened" people.  I'm here to tell you that that is not right, not even close.  Family is even more important today than in generations past, and its erosion is unacceptable.  This is a fight we can and must win.  This is a fight we will win if we just do our homework and plug in.  What I intend to do in Family First is tell you with great precision what you need to stop doing and what you need to start doing to lead your family with such a pure purpose and power that the competing messages and influences are drowned out.  I plan to help you define success and then take the steps to create and claim it for you and yours.  Your children are the stars in your crown and it is time for them to shine; it is okay for them to shine and, if you do your job, shine they will. -- Dr. Phil

 Feeling Good Together:  The Secret to Making Troubled Relationships Work by David D. Burns

Simple, Powerful Techniques that Make Relationships Work
We all have someone we can't get along with-whether it's a friend or colleague who complains constantly, a relentlessly critical boss, an obnoxious neighbour, a teenager who pouts and slams doors (all the while insisting she's not upset), or maybe a loving, but irritating spouse.

Dr. Burns' method for improving relationships is easy and surprisingly effective.  The book is filled with helpful examples and brilliant, user-friendly tools such as the Relationship Satisfaction Test, the Relationship Journal, the Five Secrets of Effective Communication, the Intimacy Exercise, and more, so you can enjoy far more loving and satisfying relationships with the people you care about.

Freaks, Geeks and Asperger Syndrome by Luke Jackson

Have you ever been called a freak or a geek?  Have you ever felt like one?  Luke Jackson is 13 years old and has Asperger Syndrome.  Over the years Luke has learned to laugh at such names but there are other aspects of life which are more difficult.  Adolescence and the teenage years is a minefield of emotions, transitions and decisions and when a child has Asperger Syndrome, the result is often explosive.

Drawing from his own experiences and gaining information from his teenage brother and sisters, he wrote this enlightening, honest and witty book in an attempt to address difficult topics such as bullying, friendships, when and how to tell others about AS, school problems, dating and relationships, and morality.

However, his main reason for writing was because "so many books are written about us, but none are written directly to adolescents with Asperger Syndrome.  I thought I would write one in the hope that we could all learn together".

Get Out of My Life by Anthony E. Wolf   (3 copies)

Get Out of My Life provides parents with a new understanding of their teenagers so they will look at them in a whole new light, seeing them as young people on a journey to empowerment.  

The world has not stood still; in fact, it is changing faster than ever.  And while the classic struggles between parents and teenagers still remain, societal changes have brought about many new ones that parents of earlier generations never dreamed of.  Today’s parents must deal with such “new problems” as their children experimenting with the latest recreational drugs; increased sexual activity at a younger age; the Internet; and above all, a world that seems far less safe than ten years ago.  Dr. Wolf realized the importance of these ever-evolving issues, which is why he has decided to significantly revise Get Out of My Life.  And most importantly, he reassures parents that everything will turn out alright.

Girls on the Edge -The Four Factors Driving the New Crisis for Girls - Sexual Identity, the Cyberbubble, Obsessions and Envy by Leonard Sax

Girls are cutting themselves with razors.  Girls are convinced they're fat, and starve themselves to prove it.  Other girls are so anxious about grades they can't sleep at night at eleven years of age.  What's going on?  In Girls on the Edge, Dr. Leonard Sax provides the answers.  He shares stories of girls who look confident and strong on the outside, but are fragile within.  He shows why a growing proportion of teen and tween girls are confused about their sexual identity, or are obsessed with grades or Facebook.  Dr. Sax provides parents with tools to help girls become confident women, along with practical tips on helping your daughter choose a sport, nurturing her spirit through female centered activities, and more.  Compelling and inspiring, Girls on the Edge points the way to a new future for today's young women.

Girls will be Girls: Raising Confident and Courageous Daughters by JoAnn Deak and Teresa Barker

JoAnn Deak draws from the latest brain research on girls to illustrate the exciting new ways in which we can help our daughters learn and thrive. Most telling of all, she gives us the voices of girls themselves as they struggle with body image, self-esteem, intellectual growth, peer pressure, and media messages. The result is a masterly book that addresses the key issues for girls growing up; one that fulfills a desperate need for clear guiding principles to help mothers, fathers, and their daughters navigate this chaotic contemporary culture.  A comprehensive road map to the many emotional and physical challenges girls ages six to sixteen face in today’s changing world.

Growing Up On the Spectrum by Lynn Koegel

The first comprehensive guide to helping teens with autism

Adolescence is a fraught time for any child.  But what if your child is among the more than half million currently estimated to fall on the autistic spectrum?  The toddlers diagnosed during the first wave of this epidemic are growing up, and there is alarmingly little information available on how to guide them to independent and successful adulthood.

With questions and concerns of Claire LaZebnik, a writer and the parent of a teenager with autism and additional pieces by LaZebnik's sixteen-year-old son Andrew, we are offered a unique first-person perspective.  The book addresses universal parental concerns, from first crushes, a changing body, and the challenges of being socially appropriate to how to succeed at college and beyond.

Guiding Your Child Through Grief by Mary Ann Emsniler & James Pemswiler

Helping a child cope with the loss of a parent or other beloved family member or friend can be your most trying experience as a parent.  No one wants to see a child suffer, and this is one situation that renders you virtually powerless. Jim and Mary Ann Emswiler know what they're talking about here.  Jim's first wife died at the age of 39; he married Mary Ann a few years later, and the pair tried to help their three children cope with the loss of their mother.  They founded one of the nation's largest bereavement groups for children to help them get over the loss of a parent. Guiding Your Child Through Grief offers some advice including the five needs of grieving children, why children revisit their grief throughout life and how a grieving parent can best take care of him/herself and the children.

The Heart & Soul of the Next Generation by Michael J. Bradley

This book should inspire both teens and their parents.  His stories will convince you that today's teens have what it takes to make tomorrow's world a better place.

Bradley draws on his 30 years of experience as a teen psychologist to profile 20 adolescents who dealt courageously with pain and suffering.  In lively, empathetic prose, he relates cases involving difficult issues indeed, such as the serious illness of a parent, suicide, bullying and abortion.  One boy, Adam, baldly states his determination to keep trying to commit suicide:  "life is too painful for me ....  It's unfair that all of you should make me stay here and suffer."  But with Bradley's help, Adam finds the small part of himself that wants to live and helps it to grow.  Karin's case ends more tragically.  After successfully completing rehab for alcoholism, she is taunted by local bullies for not drinking, abandoned by her boyfriend, gets drunk and shoots herself.  In a particularly poignant anecdote, a boy named Nick struggles to tell his father that he is gay.  The revelation surprisingly leads to a new closeness between father and son.  This informed and compassionate look at the courage of teenagers highlights the ability of young people to triumph over adversity.

Help Your Teen Beat an Eating Disorder by James Lock & Andrew de Granel

If your teenager shows signs of having an eating disorder, you may hope that, with the right mix of love, encouragement, and parental authority, he or she will just "snap out of it."  If only it were that simple.  To make matters worse, certain treatments assume you've somehow contributed to the problem and prohibit you from taking an active role.  But as you watch your own teen struggle with a life-threatening illness, every fiber of your being tells you there must be some part you can play in restoring your child's health.  

In Help Your Teenager Beat an Eating Disorder compelling evidence is presented that your involvement as a parent is critical.  In fact, it may be the key to conquering your child's illness.  It also provides the tools you need to build a united family front that attacks the illness to ensure that your child develops nourishing eating habits and life-sustaining attitudes, day by day, meal by meal.  Full recovery takes time, and relapse is common.  But whether your child has already entered treatment or you're beginning to suspect there is a problem, the time to act is now.  This book shows how.

The Highly Sensitive Child – Helping our Children Thrive When the World Overwhelms Them by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D.

In The Highly Sensitive Child, Aron focuses on highly sensitive children, who share the same characteristics as highly sensitive adults and thus face unique challenges as they grow up.

The book shows how “Highly Sensitive Children” are born deeply reflective, sensitive to the subtle, and easily overwhelmed.  These qualities can make for smart, conscientious, creative children, but with the wrong parenting or schooling, they can become unusually shy or timid, or begin acting out.  Few parents and teachers understand where this behavior comes from-and as a result, are often mislabeled as overly inhibited, fearful, or "fussy," or classified as "problem children" (and in some cases, misdiagnosed with disorders such as Attention Deficit Disorder).  But raised with proper understanding and care, they are no more prone to these problems than nonsensitive children and can grow up to be happy, healthy, well-adjusted adults.

With chapters addressing the needs of specific age groups, from newborns through teens, The Highly Sensitive Child delivers warmhearted, timely information for parents, teachers, and the sensitive children in their lives.

The Highly Sensitive Person – How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D.

Fifteen to twenty percent of the world's population has an abnormally sensitive central nervous system.  These Highly Sensitive People, or HSPs, overreact to stimuli and become overwhelmed by events and activities others consider normal.  Other problems include excessive irritation from commotion or noise and an intense desire to break away from social situations.  On the other hand, because their experience of the world is so poignant, they can show remarkable intelligence and creative capacity.  Dr. Elaine Aron, a psychologist crusading to make the medical community recognize this phenomenon, outlines this personality type and suggests ways HSPs can both understand their personality and have success in spite of it.

Hold onto Your Kids:  Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate   (2 copies)

One of the most disturbing and misunderstood trends of our time is happening -- peers are replacing parents in the lives of our children.  This phenomenon is dubbed as peer orientation, which refers to the tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behavior.  But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture.  It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage gangs and criminal activity. 

Hold On To Your Kids will restore parenting to its natural intuitive basis and the parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. The concepts, principles and practical advice contained in Hold On To Your Kids will empower parents to satisfy their children's inborn need to find direction by turning towards a source of authority, contact and warmth.

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish   (2 copies)

An ideal resource for parents, teachers, Sunday school volunteers and anyone else who strives to develop that important bond of genuine communication with children. The book provides practical advice and encouragement to parents on how they can learn their child’s emotional language, unlocking the door to their child's heart --and vastly improved relationships!  Contrary to popular belief, it is possible to talk so that both children and teens will listen.  This book will take the frustration out of parents'' interactions with their kids when they master Childspeak and Teenspeak.  All it takes is learning to package words in such a manner that kids and teens want to listen.  These principles of parent-child communication are time-tested and proven approaches that will change and improve family communication.

Down-to-earth advice on how to be more effective with your children and more supportive of yourself, with tips on everything from coping with your child’s negative feelings to setting firm limits while still maintaining goodwill.

 How to Talk So Teens Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

The renowned #1 New York Times bestselling authors share their advice and expertise with parents and teens in this accessible, indispensable guide to surviving adolescence.

This essential guide tackles the tough issues teens and parents face today.  Filled with straightforward advice and written in their trademark, down-to-earth style sure to appeal to parents and teens, this all-new volume offers both innovative, easy-to-implement suggestions and proven techniques to build the foundation for lasting relationships.  From curfews and cliques to sex and drugs, it gives parents the tools to help their children safely navigate the often stormy years of adolescence.

I Have a Story for You…Musings of the Moodivator by Carole Bertuzzi Luciani

This book is a truthful account of segments of Carole Bertuzzi Luciani`s life spanning from 1958 to today.  She recalls situations along the way that have been challenging, thought provoking, often embarrassing and mostly humorous.  Carole`s memory for details is incredible; her openness is endearing; and her writing style is warm and friendly.  Whether it be her historical (hysterical) accounts of her brush with bingo, baseball or the bane of everyday life, you will be both touched and tickled.

I Never Get Anything!” How to Keep Your Kids from Running Your Life by Thomas W. Phelan

Outlining the six tactics kids use to get their way, this reference teaches parents to think objectively about their children's favorite ploys and emotionally manipulative strategies.  Insightful analyses emphasize the importance of understanding the underlying emotional dynamics of testing and offer practical solutions, from knowing how to say "no" comfortably to when to say "yes" encouragingly.  Ensuring a healthy relationship between children and parents, this humorous, down-to-earth guide enables parents to manage their own behavior and that of their children.

I’ll Be the Parent, You Be the Kid by Paul Kropp

Familiar and authoritative, Paul Kropp's expert parenting advice is a relief to Canadians looking to find the "right" parenting book among the glut of guides available today.  Practical and direct, Kropp engages parents with a readable style and open approach to the concerns that make parents often feel it's impossible to do the right thing!  I'll Be the Parent, You Be the Kid strips it down to the basics, from dealing with the short-comings of day care to the perennial issue of correct discipline, to staying on top of your kids' education.

Kids Are Worth It by Barbara Coloroso   (5 copies)

Chances are that, as a parent, you and Barbara Coloroso already have something in common: you both know that "kids are worth it."

By looking at the difference between encouragement and rewards, discipline and punishment, Coloroso helps parents learn how to empower and influence their children instead of controlling them by teaching them how to think, not what to think.

With new material throughout, including a new chapter on bribes and threats, kids are worth it! is an indispensable addition to any family's bookshelf.  Coloroso examines three approaches to parenting through meaningful examples and anecdotes and she demonstrates which approaches work and which don't.

By applying her powerful methods to specific topics such as toilet training, chores and sibling rivalry as well as buffering children from sexual promiscuity, drug abuse and suicide, she feels that teaching kids to take ownership of their feelings and problems can lead to progress toward self-discipline.

The Leader in Me:  How Schools and Parents Around the World Are Inspiring Greatness, One Child at a Time by Stephen Covey

The world has entered an era of the most profound and challenging change in human history.  Most of our children are not prepared, and we know it.

Parents around the world see the change and know that the traditional three R''s -- reading, writing, and arithmetic -- are necessary, but not enough.  Their children need to become far more responsible, creative, and tolerant of differences.  they need to increase their ability to think for themselves, take initiative, get along with others, and solve problems.

Business leaders are not finding people whose skills and character match the demands of today's global economy, including strong communication, teamwork, analytical, technology, and organizational skills.  They need young people who are self-motivated, creative, and have a strong work ethic.

How will we bridge this ever-widening gap?  The Leader in Me is the story of the extraordinary schools, parents, and business leaders around the world who are preparing the next generation to meet the great challenges and opportunities of the twenty-first century.

The best way to prepare the next generation for the future is to emphasize the value of communication, cooperation, initiative, and unique, individual talent -- for nothing undermines confidence more than comparison.  Whether in the classroom or at home, it is never too early to start applying leadership skills to everyday life.  Drawing on the many techniques and examples that have already seen incredible success around the world, The Leader in Me shows how easy it is to incorporate these skills into daily life.  It is a timely answer to many of the challenges facing today's young people, businesses, parents, and educators -- one that is perfectly matched to the global demands of the twenty-first century.

Learning The Arts in an Age of Uncertainty by Walter Pitman

Walter Pitman has been able to make his case about “Learning The Arts in an Age of Uncertainty”, readable and persuasive.  His books provide the kind of reasoning about the centrality of the arts in education.  Parents who are concerned about the real nature of their children’s education should read this book.

Learning Outside the Lines … by Jonathan Mooney

Between 30 and 45 million Americans live with learning disabilities or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.  While the majority of these students possess above average intelligence and unique gifts, school systems do not understand and consider them lazy, unintelligent and destined to fail.  Drawing on their own experiences, Jonathan Mooney and David Cole teach students with a learning disability or ADHD how to use their individual cognitive and creative skills.  Learning Outside the Lines refutes the idea that LD and ADHD students are defective and concentrates instead on these students' strengths: remarkable visual and spatial abilities and heightened creativity.

Life Skills for Kids:  Equipping Your Child for the Real World by Christine M. Field

Does your child know how to use a check book? Boil an egg? Do the laundry? Read a map? Homeschooler Christine Field helps parents systematically teach kids - from preschool to the teen years - what they need to know to thrive as adults.

Life Strategies – Doing What Works – Doing What Matters by Dr. Phillip C. McGraw

Dr. Phil McGraw describes the ten Laws of Life that every person needs to know.  These laws are like the laws of gravity - they exist, and you don’t get a vote.  Learn them, use them, and improve virtually every aspect of your life, from work to home to spiritual to physical. Ignore them and you’ll continue to pay the price.  Dr. Phil McGraw gets you not to just give lip service about being accountable, but shows you how to be accountable and how to do it effectively.  With a seven-step process for achieving your goals, Dr. Phil shows you how to strategically control your life, rather than continue as a frustrated passenger.

Living Well with Cancer by Katen Moore and Libby Schmais

This book offers a revolutionary new approach to symptom management, from a nurse who has experienced first-hand the day-to-day discomforts many cancer patients are forced to endure.

Living with Fear – Understanding and Coping with Anxiety by Issac M. Marks

Living with Fear is a self help book that gives practical advice to people who are suffering from phobias panic obsessions rituals or traumatic distress.  The book includes phobias e.g. fear of Aids contamination as well as the latest treatments.  There are references examples and case studies throughout the book.  The case examples are drawn from many parts of the world.

The Lolita Effect by Dr. M. Gigi Durham

Brand name thong underwear for ten-year-olds; oversexed and underdressed celebrities gone wild; dolls with companion "sexy" clothing lines for preteen girls:  how do we raise sexually healthy young women in this kind of environment?  "The Lolita Effect" offers parents, teachers, counsellors, and other concerned adults effective and progressive strategies for resisting the violations and repressions that put girls at risk.

Lonely, Sad and Angry:  A Parent’s Guide to Depression in Children and Adolescents by Barbara D. Ingersol and Sam Goldstein

All children experience occasional feelings of loneliness, sadness, and anger.  However, when these feelings are so strong and so prolonged that they appear to overwhelm the child, the possibility of childhood depression must be considered.

In Lonely, Sad and Angry, authors Barbara D. Ingersoll and Sam Goldstein define depression in straightforward terms and explain how depression differs from the normal "ups and downs" of life.  They describe what kinds of behaviors signal depression in children and adolescents and explain how to tell if a child or adolescent is depressed.  They discuss the causes of depression and examine treatment options with an eye toward helping parents decide which treatment--medical, psychological, and environmental--might be most beneficial to a depressed youngster.  Detailed information is provided about what parents and teachers can do to help depressed children at home, in school, and in the community. The book includes guidelines for what to do in a crisis situation and suggestions about where to turn for further help.  Finally, the authors look to the future and offer some ideas about what lies ahead for children diagnosed with depression.

Louder Than Words by Jenny McCarthy

If someone you love is diagnosed with autism, "LOUDER THAN WORDS" is the first book you should read.

One morning, Jenny McCarthy was having a cup of coffee when she sensed something was wrong.  She ran into her two-year-old son Evan’s room and found him seizing.  In that moment, Jenny went from being the mother of an average toddler to being in the midst of a medical odyssey.  Doctor after doctor misdiagnosed Evan until after many harrowing, life-threatening episodes later; one amazing doctor discovered that Evan is autistic.

She discovered an intense combination of behavioral therapy, diet, and supplements that became the key to saving Evan from autism.  And, now in this book, she creates a roadmap for parents who are concerned about their own child.  Jenny does more than just reveal the winning formula that worked for Evan.  Her story shares the frustrations and joys of raising an autistic child and shows how with love and determination a parent can shape their child’s life and happiness.

Mars and Venus - Starting Over:  A Practical Guide for Finding Love Again After a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or the Loss of a Loved One by John Gray

Even thought it feels like it, it's not the end--you will survive and love again.

John Gray understands that there is nothing more devastating than a broken heart.  Having helped millions of people develop better relationships, he now offers comfort and advice for those coping with the loss of love.  With the compassionate wisdom of Mars and Venus Starting Over, you will learn to become whole again and go on to a rich, rewarding life--and the promise of new love.

While the process of healing is similar on Mars and Venus, there are distinct differences and John Gray provides warmth and insight, he shows men and women how to heal their bruised hearts as they:

·  deal with pain

·  find forgiveness

·  discover the strength to let go

·  rebuild confidence

·  rise to the challenge of finding fulfillment again

Mars and Venus Starting Over is a gift of love, a light in the darkness of your grief. Trust john Gray to steer you through this difficult time and turn a painful ending into a joyous new beginning

Men and Depression – What to do When the Man You Care About is Depressed by Theresa Francis-Cheng and Robin Grey

Men who have experienced bouts of despair speak of it as a kind of living death, a deep darkness of the soul, where the self wages a struggle against loss, hopelessness and futility.  Yet as intensely personal as the experience may seem, its effects spread beyond the individual into the circle of family, friends and work relationships.

This book offers help and understanding to both the men suffering such a crisis and those people in their lives who may feel very much alone and helpless, often coping with their own feelings of guilt, anger and despair.

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray

Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences.  Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.

Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships.  Now viewed as a modern classic, this phenomenal book has helped men and women realize how different they really are and how to communicate their needs in such a way that conflict doesn't arise and intimacy is given every chance to grow.

The Minds of Boys:  Saving Our Sons from Falling Behind in School and Life by Michael Gurian

This book shows parents and teachers how to help boys overcome their current classroom obstacles by helping to create the proper learning environment, understand how to help boys work with their unique natural gifts, nurture and expand every bit of their potential, and enabling them to succeed in life the way they ought to.

Here are the facts:   Boys today are simply not learning as well as girls.  Boys receive 70% of the Ds and Fs given all students.  Boys cause 90% of classroom discipline problems.  80% of all high school dropouts are boys.  Millions of American boys are on Ritalin and other mind-bending control drugs.  Only 40% of college students are boys.  And three out of four learning disabled students are boys.  So what can we do?

Wonderfully readable, this book offers parents practical ways to meet the social, emotional, physical and cognitive needs of boys.  Anyone who cares about the future of our boys must read this book.

Mom’s House, Dad’s House – Making Two Homes for Your Child by Isolina Ricci

Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids is packed with practical tips, frank answers, easy-to-use lists, "train your brain" ideas, reproducible worksheets, and things to try when words just won't come out right. Kids will learn how to:

·  Deal with parents living apart, schedules, and dueling house rules

·  Settle comfortably in one home or two

·  Stay out of the "miserable middle" when parents fight

·  Manage stress, guilt, change, fear, and other feelings

·  Stay connected with parents, relatives, and the "right" friends

·  Appreciate the gifts (and deal with the gripes) of their new version of family

·  Feel better FAST!

Kids can't get their parents back together, but they can help themselves get stronger and go on to succeed in life. This book shows them how

More Than Moody:  Recognizing and Treating Adolescent Depression by Harold S. Koplewicz

More Than Moody will help with the challenge of diagnosing depression versus recognizing when a young person is struggling to cope with the ups and downs of being a modern teenager.

Dr. Koplewicz's combination of prescriptive advice and compelling stories shows parents the warning signs, risk factors, and key behaviors to look for in their teenage sons and daughters.

 Furthermore, he illustrates for parents, health-care professionals, and young adults the broad range of treatment options, including the use of SSRI anti-depressants in treating young people, as well as non-pharmaceutical approaches such as cognitive behavior therapy.

More Than Moody is a comprehensive and valuable resource for parents and teens struggling with adolescent depression and bipolar disorder.  Consumer text informs parents about warning signs, risk factors, and key symptoms distinguishing adolescent moodiness from serious depression.  The book also illustrates the broad range of treatment options.

A New Beginning – How You Can Change Your Life Through Cognitive Therapy by Gary Emery

Most popular books on depression merely describe the problem.  This book is unique in that it clearly spells out proven techniques that we have used to help people in overcoming their depression.  Thus it can help women to weather the crises of depression and lay the groundwork for more effective responses in the future.

If ten or more of these statements accurately describe the way you have been feeling, then you are suffering from some form of depression.

-          I feel sad

-          I am discouraged about the future

-          I don’t enjoy things the way I used to

-          I feel guilty much of the time

-          I am disappointed in myself

-          I have thoughts of killing myself

-          I feel I may be punished

-          I cry more than I used to

-          I put off making decisions

-          I feel I look old and unattractive

-          I get tired more easily than before

-          My appetite has changed

-          My sleep patterns have changed

-          I am less interested in sex

A Newcomer’s Guide to Services in Peel, Halton and Dufferin - (4 copies)

This book provides services to many areas such as:

-          Getting Started

-          Employment

-          Health & Housing

-          Education

-          Regional Information

-          Things to Know

No Easy Answers – The Learning Disabled Child at Home and at School by Sally L. Smith

Parents and teachers of learning disabled children have turned to Sally Smith's "No Easy Answers for information, advice, and comfort for more than fifteen years.  In this revised, trade paperback edition of the latest information on learning disabilities in a clear, honest, and accessible way.  There are updated chapters on Attention Deficit Disorder and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, and on the public laws that guarantee an equal education for learning disabled children.  There is also a section on learning disabled adults and the laws that protect them.  Sally Smith, the parent of a learning disabled child herself, guides parents along every step of the way, from determining if their child is learning disabled to challenging the school system to provide special services.  Drawing on more than twenty-five years of experience at her own nationally acclaimed school, she also offers valuable strategies to teachers who are anxious or discouraged as they struggle with learning disabled students.  Although there are no easy answers, Sally Smith's experience, wealth of information, and sense of humor provide essential support.

No More Misbehavin’:  38 Difficult Behaviors and How to Stop Them by Michele Borba

Insightful and straightforward advice on dealing with issues such as:  Anger, Anxiety, Biting, Bossy, Bullied, Bullying, Chore Wars, Cynical, Defiant, Doesn't Listen, Fighting, Gives Up Easily, Hitting, Homework Battles, Hooked on Rewards, Impulsivity, Intolerant, Lying and Cheating, Materialistic, Mean, Negative Peer Pressure, No Friends, Over-Perfectionism, Poor Sportsmanship, Put-Downs, Rude, Selfish, Sibling Battles, Short Attention Span, Shy, Stealing, Swearing, Talking Back, Tattling, Teased, Temper Tantrums, Whining, Yelling.

Parenting expert Dr. Michele Borba tackles the most common bad behaviors that kids repeat over and over that drive parents crazy.  In this enormously useful, simple-to-use book she shows how to change these behaviors for good. For each negative behavior Dr. Borba offers a series of key tips and guidelines and outlines a step-by-step plan for a customized makeover that really works!  Using the steps outlined in No More Misbehavin'' will give you the help you need to raise kids with strong values and good character.

 Nobody Likes Me, Everybody Hates Me:  The Top 25 Friendship Problems and How to Solve Them by Michele Borba, Ed. D.

·  Do you wish your kid had more friends or could keep the ones she has?

·  Is teasing, gossiping, bullying, or cyber-bullying a problem?

·  Is she often left out or rejected by other kids?

·  Does he just follow the crowd?  Are you concerned about his friends?

·  Does she complain that she's unpopular or that nobody likes her?

·  Are you at a loss for how to help your child handle those play dates, sleepovers, being shy, too sensitive, too competitive, or having a bad reputation?

Look no further.  The resource you need to solve these problems and boost your child's social competence is in your hands.  Based on a survey of five thousand teachers and parents, Nobody Likes Me shows how to teach your child the 25 most essential friendship-building skills kids need to find, make, and keep friends, as well as survive that social pressure from peers.

Nurture the Nature:  Understanding and Supporting Your Child's Unique Core Personality by Michael Gurian

Nurture the Nature shows how any parent can tune into a child's unique core personality, hard wiring, temperament, and genetic predisposition in order to help that child flourish and thrive. 

While offering positive ideas for nurturing your child, Gurian also shows how to avoid the stress, pressures, and excessive competition of what he identifies as social trends parenting.  Most parents know instinctively that their child is unique and has special potential, weaknesses, and strengths.  No child is a blank slate.  Gurian calls on parents to turn away from one-size-fits-all approaches and instead support the individual core nature of a child with effective and customized loving care.

Organizing the disorganized child – Simple Strategies to Succeed at School by Martin L. Kutscher & Marcella Moran

"You can imagine what my child's room looked like: clothes on the floor, dresser draws open with clothes half hanging out of them, and toys spread all over the floor."

"Jill is given an assignment on Monday that is due on Friday. The problem is that despite repeated nagging, she won't start it until Thursday night."

Organizing The Disorganized Child finally answers the parents' question, "How can I help my child get organized without waging a battle?"  This essential toolkit for parents and educators factors organizational styles into the equation, and offers effective strategies that deliver amazing long-term results.

Renowned ADHD expert Dr. Martin Kutscher and coach Marcella Moran explain the roots of our children's organizational problems, and the parents' role in fixing them.  They outline different organizational styles used by different students.  (Not all kids organize the same way!)  Kutscher and Moran outline exactly what school materials to buy, and how to set up the study area.  They provide a step-by-step plan for an organizational system including:

o Refining morning and nighttime routines

o Getting the correct work home

o Planning the work, and getting it back to where it belongs

o Tips for reading and note taking

o Study and test taking skills

o Learning how to ask the right questions

Organizing the Disorganized Child is an essential toolkit that belongs on every parent's shelf.

Parenting Through Crisis:  Helping Kids In Times Of Loss, Grief, And Change by
Barbara Coloroso  
(2 copies)

Barbara Coloroso shows how parents can help children find a way through grief and sorrow during the difficult times of death, illness, divorce, and other upheavals.  She offers concrete, compassionate ideas for supporting children as they navigate the emotional ups and downs that accompany loss, assisting them in developing their own constructive ways of responding to what life hands them.   At the heart of her approach is what she calls the T.A.0. of Family -- Time, Affection, and Optimism -- coupled with her deep understanding of how people move through grief.  Barbara Coloroso’s clear answers to difficult questions are enriched by uplifting humour and insightful anecdotes from her own experiences as a Franciscan nun, mother of three, and her thirty years as a parenting educator.

Parenting with wit and wisdom in times of chaos and loss by Barbara Coloroso

Is work stressing you out?  Are your kids driving you berserk?  Don't despair. Canada's leading parenting expert, Barbara Coloroso, offers a framework to help you make it through the rough days.  Parenting with Wit and Wisdom in Times of Chaos and Loss introduces readers to the "TAO of Parenting" - time, affection and optimism.  Using anecdotes to show how the formula works, she brings clarity to difficult and serious questions.

Parenting Your Parents – Support Strategies for Meeting the Challenge of Aging in the Family by Bart Mindszenthy and Michael Gordon

When our parents reach a certain age and have difficulty coping, we find ourselves wondering how to provide them with the kind of love, care, support, and attention they need - just as they have done for us all our lives.  Parenting Your Parents shows, through 20 case studies and the personal experiences of the authors, that you are not alone and offers crucial advice to help you along this difficult but rewarding journey.  The book also offers a comprehensive planner to guide and collect information and documentation that will be critical for the proper care of your parents.

Parents Do Make a Difference – How to Raise Kids with Solid Character, Strong Minds, and Caring Hearts by Michele Borba

Finally, a book that shows you how to teach kids the eight indispensable skills-self-confidence, self-awareness, communication, problem solving, getting along, goal setting, perseverance, and empathy-they'll need for living confident, happy, and productive lives.  Filled with step-by-step advice, practical ideas, and real-life examples, Parents Do Make a Difference puts field-tested tools into the hands of every parent and teacher who wants their children to succeed.

"The fact is this may well be the only book you'll ever need on raising great children."--from the Foreword by Jack Canfield, coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Soul
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Please, Listen to Me! – Your Guide to Understanding Teenagers and Suicide

by Marion Crook

If you are a parent of a teenager, you should read this book.  Suicide is one of the leading causes of teenage death, and very often it is completely unexpected.  A teen who seems happy and healthy may, in fact, be desperately crying for help.  This book speaks sensitively yet practically to this important issue.  It covers learning to talk to your teen, using peer support, and finding professional help when it's needed.  If you care about your child, you need this book.

The Pressured Child by Michael Thompson, Ph.D.

The push for students to excel at school and get into the best colleges has never been more intense.  This invaluable new book addresses America’s performance-driven obsession with the accomplishments of its kid and provides a deeply humane response.  School occupies more waking hours than kids spend at home; and school is full not just of studies but of human emotion – excitement, fear, envy, love, anger, sexuality, boredom, competitiveness, etc.    

For parents, this book reveals the hidden emotional landscape of the school day and points toward the answers we both desire and dread as we seek to help our children find success in school and beyond.
Bridging the worlds of the growing and the grown-up, and told in Thompson’s compassionate voice as both psychologist and father, The Pressured Child shows us how to listen for the truth of our children’s experience and how to trust, love, and ultimately let go of a child.  It is a crucial book for our stressful age and an ideal resource for families struggling to survive it.

 The Primal Teen – What the New Discoveries About the Teenage Brain Tells Us About Our Kids by Barbara Strauch

For anyone who has ever puzzled over the mysterious and often infuriating behavior of a teenager comes a groundbreaking look at the teenage brain written by the medical science and health editor for The New York Times.  While many members of the scientific community have long held that the growing pains of adolescence are primarily psychological, Barbara Strauch highlights the physical nature of the transformation, offering parents and educators a new perspective on erratic teenage behavior.  Using plain language, Strauch draws upon the latest scientific discoveries to make the case that the changes the brain goes through during adolescence are as dramatic and crucial as those that take place in the first two years of life, and that teenagers are not entirely responsible for their sullen, rebellious, and moody ways.  

Featuring interviews with scientists, teenagers, parents, and teachers, The Primal Teen explores common challenges -- why teens go from articulate and mature one day to morose and unreachable the next, why they engage in risky behavior-and offers practical strategies to help manage these formative and often difficult years.

Praising Boys Well – 100 Tips for Parents and Teachers by Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer

Boys need encouragement and praise to develop healthy self esteem, but they can also feel swamped and suffocated by what they see as constant commentary on their every move and as a result they can be inclined to act out.  How can parents strike the right balance between giving effective praise and not going overboard?  How can we help our boys to feel proud without inspiring a false sense of confidence or making them praise dependent?  Praising Boys Well shows parents and teachers alike what boys need to hear along the developmental continuum and offers countless tips on what to encourage; which phrases to use-and to avoid; when incentives are appropriate; and how to incorporate praise into our boys'' everyday activities.

Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads by Rosalind Wiseman

What happens to Queen Bees and Wannabes when they grow up?

Even the most well-adjusted moms and dads can experience peer pressure and conflicts with other adults that make them act like they're back in seventh grade.  In Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads, Rosalind Wiseman gives us the tools to handle difficult situations involving teachers and other parents with grace.  Reassuring, funny, and unfailingly honest, Wiseman reveals:

• Why PTA meetings and Back-to-School nights tap into parents' deepest insecurities

• How to recognize the archetypal moms and dads-from Caveman Dad to Hovercraft Mom

• How and when to step in and step out of your child's conflicts with other children, parents, teachers, or coaches

• How to interpret the code phrases other parents use to avoid (or provoke) confrontation

• Why too many well-meaning dads sit on the sidelines, and how vital it is that they step up to the plate

• What to do and say when the playing field becomes an arena for people to bully and dominate other kids and adults

• How to have respectful yet honest conversations with other parents about sex and drugs when your values are in conflict

• How the way you handle parties, risky behavior, and academic performance affects your child

• How unspoken assumptions about race, religion, and other hot-button subjects sabotage parents' ability to work together

Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads is filled with the kind of true stories that made Wiseman's New York Times bestselling book Queen Bees & Wannabes impossible to put down.  There are tales of hardworking parents with whom any of us can identify, along with tales of outrageously bad parents-the kind we all have to reckon with.  For instance, what do you do when parents donate a large sum of money to a school and their child is promptly transferred into the honors program-while your son with better grades doesn't make the cut?  What about the mother who helps her daughter compose poison-pen e-mails to yours?  And what do you say to the parent-coach who screams at your child when the team is losing?  Wiseman offers practical advice on avoiding the most common parenting "land mines" and useful scripts to help you navigate difficult but necessary conversations.

Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads is essential reading for parents today.  It offers us the tools to become wiser, more relaxed parents-and the inspiration to speak out, act according to our values, show humility, and set the kind of example that will make a real difference in our children's lives.

Queen Bees and Wannabes:  Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends and Other Realities of Adolescence by Rosalind Wiseman

This groundbreaking book takes you inside the secret world of girls’ friendships, translating and decoding them, so parents can better help their daughters navigate through these crucial years.

Packed with insights about technology's impact on Girl World and enlivened with the experiences of girls, boys, and parents, the book offers concrete strategies to help you empower your daughter to be socially competent and treat herself with dignity.

The way adults look at girls' friendships and conflicts has changed from how they choose their best friends, how they express their anger, their boundaries with boys, and their relationships with parents.  Wiseman showed how girls of every background are profoundly influenced by their interactions with one another.

Quirky Kids:  Understanding and Helping Your Child Who Doesn't Fit In - When to Worry and When Not to Worry by Perri Klass

From the fourth-grade girl who never gets invited to a birthday party because classmates think she's "weird" to the geek who is terrific at math but is failing every other subject, quirky children are different from other kids in ways that they and their parents have a hard time understanding. They present a host of challenges that standard parenting books fail to address.

Klass and Costello illuminate the confusing list of terms often applied to quirky children-from Asperger's syndrome and non-verbal learning disability to obsessive-compulsive behaviour and sensory integration dysfunction.  The authors also discuss various therapy options, coping strategies, and available medications.  Most of all, they will help quirky kids lead rich, fulfilling lives at home, at school, even on the playground.

Raising Cain:  Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys by Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson

Boys are often raised to be strong at the expense of their emotional strength, neglecting their emotional well being.  When these boys reach their teen years, they're often sullen and angry, cut off from friends and family, pursuing unemotional sexual encounters and using anger, aggression and drugs as ways of coping with frustration.  Raising Cain gives a workable program to give children the emotional education they need to grow into well-rounded adults and illuminates the social and emotional challenges boys encounter in school and shows how parents can help cultivate emotional awareness and empathy.

The reading solution – Making Your Child a Reader for Life by Paul Kropp

Here is the one book parents must have to make sure their child becomes a reader – and stays a reader.

The reading solution includes lists of everything parents need to help their children start reading and keep reading:  “must-have” books for every age level, reading games for beginners, funny books for middle schoolers, quirky books for teen, computer games to spur reading, sure-fire books for bored reads, even the best books for adults to take to the cottage…more than 250 recommended books in all!

Ready or Not, Here Life Comes by Mel Levine

More than ever, young adults are struggling with career and life decisions that can sometimes seem overwhelming.  Some return home to live with their parents, or find themselves in unsatisfying jobs, or lack a sense of direction in their lives.  They suffer from what Dr. Mel Levine calls "work-life unreadiness," which prevents them from making the transition to full adulthood and which can cause considerable anguish. I n Ready or Not, Here Life Comes, Dr. Levine examines why many young people seem to stall before beginning their adult lives and shows how they can get back on track.

There is much that young adults can do to improve their work-life readiness.  Colleges can help too.  In addition, parents and schools can better prepare children for a successful launch into adulthood, says Dr. Levine, by giving young people the skills they will need to thrive in the adult world.  He suggests ways for schools to focus less on college prep (which generally amounts to "college admissions prep") and, instead, teach "life prep."  At the same time, Dr. Levine recommends that parents balance their inclination to support their children with decisions that will offer them greater independence.

Insightful, wise, and compassionate, Ready or Not, Here Life Comes is a book that can help adolescents and young adults -- with an assist from parents and educators -- get a head start on a productive and successful adult life.

Relationship Rescue:  A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting with Your Partner

by Dr. Phillip C. McGraw

After successfully helping hundreds of thousands of people take responsibility for their own actions, Dr. Phil McGraw now turns his expertise to the primary area of concern troubling most people: their relationships.  In his tell-it-like-it-is style that already has influenced millions of  viewers, "Dr. Phil" blows the whistle on the rhetoric of traditional "couples therapy" and instead tells you that -- no matter what state your relationship is in -- not only are you responsible for it, you are responsible for getting it back on track.  By doing this, he offers readers the chance for further happiness through meaningful, fulfilling relationships that work.

The Self-Esteem Trap – Raising Confident and Compassionate Kids in an Age of Self-Importance by Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D.

Kids today are depressed and anxious. They also feel entitled to every advantage and unwilling to make the leap into adulthood.  As Polly Young-Eisendrath makes clear in this brilliant account of where a generation has gone astray, parents trying to make their children feel special are unwittingly interfering with their kids'' ability to accept themselves and cope with life.  Clarifying an enormous cultural change, THE SELF ESTEEM TRAP shows why so many young people have trouble with empathy and compassion, struggle with moral values, and are stymied in the face of adversity.  Young-Eisendrath offers prescriptive advice on how adults can help kids-through the teen and young adult years-develop self-worth, setting them on the right track to productive, balanced, and happy lives.

The Single Mother’s Book – A Practical Guide to Managing Your Children, Career, Home, Finances, and Everything Else by Joan Anderson

THIS COMPREHENSIVE GUIDE features practical solutions for surviving and succeeding as a single mother.  Anderson offers real answers to real problems, covering Children, Careers, Finances, Credit, Taxes, Insurance, Retirement, Affording your own home, Post-divorce legal concerns, Wills, Home Repair, Burglar-proofing your home, Blended families, Resources, Romance, Physical and emotional well-being,

 Special Needs Acceptance Book (Workbook) by Ellen Sabin

This interactive, educational, and character-building book introduces children to the challenges faced by people with special needs while also supporting their personal journey toward appreciating and respecting people’s differences.  Covered are such disabilities as autism, Down syndrome, cerebral palsy, learning disabilities like dyslexia, and more.

Straight Parents, Gay Children:  Keeping Families Together by Robert Berstein

Straight Parents, Gay Children is Robert Bernstein's moving account of how he came to terms with his daughter's homosexuality and how the experience has enriched his life.  Bernstein discusses the myths surrounding homosexuality, accepting the news, parents who speak out, public figures who have gay children, and more.  Straight Parents, Gay Children is a survival guide for all parents who wish to help their gay children cope with the inevitable cruelty from which they cannot hide.  A succinct, moving book about parents who have defied the social stigma of homosexuality to publicly support their gay children.

Stress Less – Break the Power of Worry, Fear and Other Unhealthy Habits by Don Colbert

Do you realize that Americans are the most anxious, overextended, and "pressured" people in the world?  A noted physician and best-selling author, Colbert exposes stress as a potential killer.  He examines scientific evidence; explores practical proven theories; explains biblical principles; shares anecdotal stories; and challenges you to make lasting lifestyle changes to overcome stress.

Take Time for Your Life by Cheryl Richardson

America's #1 personal coach offers an inspiring, practical, seven-step program to help you create the life you want.

Step 1: If you think "selfish" is a dirty word, learn to practice extreme self-care--put yourself at the top of the list and everyone else will benefit!

Step 2: If your schedule doesn't reflect your priorities, stop reacting to life and take control of what gets your time and attention.

Step 3: Identify the things that drain you and eliminate them--people, places, and things--once and for all.

Step 4: If you feel trapped by money, investing in your financial health will stop making you feel like a victim.

Step 5: Kick the adrenaline habit!  Identify the things that fuel you and discover healthy, new sources of energy.

Step 6: If you feel lonely or isolated, learn how to surround yourself with high-quality relationships that support, challenge, and encourage you to be your best.

Step 7: Don't let life get in the way of your spiritual well-being--connect to your inner wisdom and create a personal practice.

Packed with useful exercises, checklists, personal stories, and a wealth of resources, Cheryl Richardson's program will show you how to step back, regain control, and make conscious decisions about the future you'd like to create.  Take time for your life--and begin living a life that you love.

Talking with Children About Loss by Maria Trozzi

With this compassionate, groundbreaking book, Maria Trozzi helps parents and child-care workers offer children going through grief the tools they need to cope and adjust.  Drawing from 15 years of experience as a counselor, the author shares strategies for gently helping children of all ages talk about their feelings, express their fears and handle particularly traumatic deaths such as suicide.  Talking with Children About Loss offers adults answers for how to deal appropriately with children's questions and issues, as well as tricky situations like handling funerals

Teachable Moments – A Parent’s Guide to Helping Your Child Excel by Edie Weinthal, Ph.D.

Helping children achieve academic success is an ongoing process for parents — and the sooner parents begin reinforcing learning skills, the quicker their child will start taking the initiative in his or her own learning.  This book recommends specific activities, actions, and attitudes parents can adopt to reinforce the skills their child learns in school.

As a parent, you already know that helping your child achieve academic success is an ongoing process.  Many parents want to take an active role in their child’s education but hesitate, believing that they lack the required expertise.  This thoughtful book gives them the focus and perspective they need to take part in guiding their child’s academic development from preschool through high school.

Teen Brain – Teen Mind – What Parents Need to Know to Survive the Adolescent Years by Dr. Ron Clavier

FEATURING NEW INFORMATION ON HOMEWORK, BULLYING, ELECTRONIC COMMUNICATION, AND MORALITY.

Why do teens act the way they do? I n this second edition of his popular book Teen Brain, Teen Mind, renowned psychologist Dr. Ron Clavier provides some fascinating answers to this age-old question.  In clear-sighted and accessible language, Clavier explains that neurological changes in a young person's developing brain underlie many of the emotions and behaviors that can make teens so wonderful and yet so unpredictable and volatile.

With a healthy dose of humor, Clavier argues that a clear understanding of the teenage brain is the key we need to unlock the mysteries of why our kids act the way they act and think the way they think. From drug use and early sexual activity to fashion and music, Clavier covers topics of relevance to both teens and their parents. Along the way, he offers numerous coping tips and strategies designed to ease tensions and improve communications.

Teens Under the Influence by Katherine Ketcham

In small towns and major cities, in suburbs and slums, in public and private schools, thousands of kids are experimenting with drugs.  Many of them will become addicts; some will die.  The first and only book to focus entirely on adolescent alcohol and other drug use, Teens Under the Influence addresses the immediate dangers that threaten these kids--exploring the short- and long-term effects of their addiction and giving parents solid, sensitive, practical advice to combat this growing epidemic.

Knowledge is the key to defeating drug addictions, and that is what this comprehensive, timely new book provides.  Full of candid true stories from adolescent drug users, with facts based on the most recent scientific research.  "Teens Under the Influence tells you exactly what you need to know to deal with your child’s problem, covering such important topics as

- The common myths and misconceptions about drug addiction

- The crucial differences between adult and adolescent dependency

- The reasons kids get hooked

- The stages of adolescent addiction

- The different kinds of drugs kids use and combine

- Various treatment options and how to choose the best treatment for your child

- Strategies for handling relapses

Teens Under the Influence offers practical help that may save your child's life.  It may save the life of a friend.  And it may save your own.

 The Thinker’s Way – Create the Life You Want by John Chaffee

You have the power to create the life you want.  Your success depends on your own choices; you must achieve the meaningful career and personal life you seek through informed decisions based on your values, dreams and individual identity.  The Thinker's Way by Jon Chaffee is a unique self-improvement guide providing step-by-step instructions for improving your thinking, living, decision-making, problem solving, communication, value development and relationships.

The Thinker’s Way is designed to encourage readers to dictate whether or not they will succeed in life. The author shows, step-by-step, how everyone can improve their capacity to think critically, live creatively, choose freely and solve problems.

Three Cups of Tea – One Man’s Journey to Change the World…One Child at a Time by Greg Mortenson

This young reader’s edition of the worldwide bestseller "Three Cups of Tea" has been specially adapted for younger readers and updated by Greg Mortenson to bring his remarkable story of humanitarianism up to date for the present.  Includes new photos and illustrations, as well as a special interview by Greg as twelve-year-old daughter, Amira, who has traveled with her father as an advocate for the Pennies for Peace program for children.

Throw Your Heart Over the Fence:  The Continuing Adventure of the Famous People Players by Diane Dupuy

This is the heart-warming story of Diane Dupuy and the Famous People Players Dinner-Theatre Company, from Toronto, Canada.  It outlines the battles, victories, and the many fundamental individuals who made the company what it is today.  Throw Your Heart Over the Fence is a truly inspirational work, as it presents Diane's perseverance and unique struggle, in following her dream and finally attaining it.

The Truth About Children & Divorce by Robert E. Emery

In The Truth about Children and Divorce, Dr. Robert Emery shows how our powerful emotions and the way we handle them shape how we divorce — and whether our children suffer or thrive in the long run. With compassion and authority, Dr. Emery explains, step by step, how parents can manage the potentially toxic feelings of their divorce and deal more effectively with the necessary daily tasks — from talking to children and creating a workable parenting schedule to dealing with legal issues.  This may be the most important book a parent ever reads.

Under Pressure – Rescuing Childhood from the Culture of Hyper-Parenting by Carl Honore

Here is a fascinating book that takes an urgent look at childhood today and how we are raising a generation of over programmed, overachieving, exhausted children.

For generations of children, growing up was a pretty simple business: you went to school for a few hours a day, you dabbled in hobbies and sports, and the rest of the time you played.  Or maybe you just day-dreamed.  Carl Honoré explains how our modern approach to children is backfiring: our kids are fatter, more myopic, more injured, more depressed and more medicated than any previous generation.  By using children as a way to relive our own lives, or as a way to make up for our personal shortcomings, we have destroyed the magic and innocence of childhood.  Under Pressure is not a parenting manual but a call to action; we must do better for our children.

Using fascinating anecdotes about obsessive parents (including one about the father of a tennis player who drugged all his child's opponents), solid research and personal insight, Honoré explains the over-parenting phenomenon, dispels myths and rallies for change in clear and persuasive prose.  Topics explored include the use of technology as babysitting, how enrolling children in hours of extracurriculars every week can do more harm than good and how we underestimate the resilience of our children at the expense of their freedom.

Wealth 101 – Getting What You Want – Enjoying What You’ve Got by John-Roger McWilliams and Peter McWilliams

The authors of this book define wealth as health, happiness, abundance, prosperity, riches, loving, caring, sharing, learning and knowing what we want, opportunity, enjoying and balance.  This book explores how to enjoy the life you already have.  Then, with appreciation and gratitude, how to obtain more of what you really want until, finally, you gain a balance between getting what you want and enjoying what you have.

When a Friend Dies by Marilyn Gootman

The death of a friend is a wrenching event for anyone at any age.  Teenagers especially need help coping with this painful loss.  This sensitive book answers questions grieving teens often have, like “How should I be acting?”  “Is it wrong to go to parties and have fun?” and “What if I can’t handle my grief on my own?”

The advice is gentle, non-preachy, and compassionate; the author has seen her own children suffer from the death of a friend, and she knows what teens go through.  The revised edition includes new quotes from teens, new resources, and new insights into losing a friend through violence.  Also recommended for parents and teachers of teens who have experienced a painful loss.

When Things Get Crazy with Your Teen - The Why, the How, and What to do Now by Mike Bradley

No, it's not easy raising teenagers. Yes, there are sane solutions in this problem-solving parent's guide.

How should you respond when your teen comes home late?  Wears inappropriate clothes?  Is pregnant, or flunking out?  You'll find the answers right here at your fingertips in this quick-reference manual from one of the leading experts on adolescent behaviour.  As someone who has counselled hundreds of teens in his practice and as a father of two teens himself, Dr. Michael Bradley understands how teenagers can drive you crazy.  Offering practical "first response" advice, he tells you exactly what to do and what NOT to do in about every scenario you'll ever face with your kid, from messy rooms and monstrous moods to drug abuse and depression.

If you own a teen (or feel owned by one) the experts agree you need this book

When Your Loved One Has Dementia – A Simple Guide for Caregivers by Joy. A. Glenner

Eighty percent of persons with dementia live at home, and the family members caring for them are often overwhelmed by the enormous responsibility and the complexities of care.  This book is designed to support the caregivers and help them understand the needs and feelings of the person for whom they are caring.  A central focus is the goal of sustaining a loving family relationship between the caregiver and the patient.

Developed from a training program for professionals and family caregivers, this book teaches the basics of dementia care while emphasizing communication, understanding and acceptance, and personal growth through the care giving experience.  The result is a guide that integrates the practicalities of care giving with the human emotions that accompany it.

Where Will They Live – A Guide to Help You Help Your Parents with Their Housing Decisions by Barbara H. Carter

In this warm and helpful book, seniors’ housing expert Barbara H. Carter explains how parents and children can avoid or defuse conflict by considering housing options before a crisis arises.

Everything you need to know is here, from detailed comparisons of the different options – long-term care, home care, retirement residences – to advice on how to work with lawyers, doctors, financial planners, and occupational therapists, to lists of resources.

Win in the Arena of Life – Living a Life You Love is Worth Fighting For by Ricky Anderson

“Win in the Arena of Life” will show you how to:

-          Discover and affirm your true worth

-          Set motivating goals and stay focused on your winning plan

-          Program yourself with positive thoughts

-          Consistently perform in what athletes call the “zone”

-          Overcome fear, lethargy and procrastination

-          Put enthusiasm and energy into everything you do

-          Use adversity to your advantage, developing a winner’s edge

-          Put more laughter and joy in your life

The World Needs Your Kid – How to Raise Children Who Care and Contribute by Craig & Marc Kielburger

Inside this guide to parenting is a profound philosophy that encourages children to become global citizens.  Drawing on life lessons and success stories Marc and Craig Kielburger demonstrate how small actions make a difference in the life of a child and ultimately change the world.

Yes, Your Teen is Crazy!  Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind by
Michael J. Bradley
  (2 copies)

Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy validates what a parent already knows about their brain-challenged teen.  The book presents new ways to look at and implement seasoned techniques of parenting, and provides a decent chuckle of recognition now and again.  After reading this book, you will no longer be plagued with guilt that anything you did turned him or her into a raging, insane, out of control Marilyn Manson groupie.  Peers, genes and developmental brain chemistry do that.  Dr. Bradley explains teen brain development and offers helpful and humorous advice to parents.

You'd Be So Pretty If . . . Teaching Our Daughters to Love Their Bodies -- Even When We Don't Love Our Own by Dara Chadwick

Every mom wants her daughter to feel confident in her own skin, but may often unconsciously impose her own "body image blueprint."  Dara Chadwick's You'd Be So Pretty If... reveals:

• What girls learn when Mom diets
• How to talk to your daughter about healthy eating and exercise habits
• The trigger words that set off a body image crisis
• How to recognize a budding eating disorder

With humour and compassion, You'd Be So Pretty If... offers parents fresh and useful strategies for conveying that success isn't negated by carrying extra pounds-or guaranteed by keeping them off.

Your Child’s Self-Esteem by Dorothy Corkille Briggs

Step-by step guidelines for raising responsible, productive, happy children.  Self-image is your child’s most important characteristic.  How to help create strong feelings of self-worth is the central challenge for every parent and teacher.  The formula for how is spelled out in Your Child’s Self-Esteem.

Your Defiant Teen:  10 Steps to Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship by

Russell A. Barkley, Ph.D.   (2 copies)

When your teen’s rebellious behaviour "crosses the line," how can you re-establish your authority without getting caught in a power struggle?  Bestselling authors and distinguished psychologists Russell Barkley and Arthur Robin have each spent decades helping parents and kids resolve standoffs and repair their relationships.  Now they’ve distilled their approach into a clinically proven self-help program that can help you break through to your teen and rebuild trust.  Your Defiant Teen centres on 10 simple steps that lead to better behaviour.  It provides practical guidelines for fostering mutual respect, introducing cooperative problem solving, and strengthening family relationships--while giving your teen vital skills for becoming a mature, independent adult.

CD’s

Always Looking Up – The Adventures of an Incurable Optimist (5 CD set) by Michael J. Fox

There are many words to describe Michael J. Fox: Star.  Husband.  Father.  Activist.  But one word encapsulates everything he stands for, everything he's accomplished:  Optimist.  Struck with Parkinson's at the height of his fame, Fox has taken what some might consider cause for depression and turned it into a beacon of hope for millions.  In Always Looking Up, he talks about the personal philosophy that carried him through his darkest hours, and speaks with others who have emerged from difficult periods with optimism to spare.  With humor and wit, Fox shows how he became a happier, more satisfied person by recognizing the gifts of everyday life.

Analyze Your Teen:  22 Practical Strategies to Strengthen Your Relationship With Your Teen (4 CD set) by Dr. Karyn Gordon

ANALYSE YOUR TEEN is an indispensable resource for parents of teens!  Filled with 22 practical strategies, parent advice and everyday examples, it will equip you to help your teen as well as strengthen your relationship with them!

In these 4 CD's you will learn: 

  • 7 Strategies to esteem your teen so they are making wise choices!
  • 5 Strategies to connect and communicate effectively with your teen!
  • 6 Strategies to understand and respond to emotions!
  • 4 Strategies to teach teen responsibility and set boundaries!

There is nothing on these CD's that Dr. Karyn would be afraid or ashamed of sharing with your teen.  These CD's will not only equip you as a parent, they can also act as an amazing tool to open the dialogue between you and your teen.

Ask yourself:

  • Do you ever wonder how you can build your teen's self-esteem?
  • Do you know how you can influence your teen's attitude so they make wise choices?
  • Would you like to learn a positive way to deal with conflict?
  • Does your teen bottle their emotions or lash out?
  • Do they struggle with anxiety, anger, stress or depression?
  • Does your teen lack motivation and resist responsibility?
  • Do they act like you owe them something?
  • Do you feel you have lost control?

The Art of Mindful Living (2 CD set) by Thich Nhat Hanh

Zen meditation master Thich Nhat Hanh offers his practical teachings about how to bring love and mindful awareness into our daily experience.  Kind, purposeful, and illuminating, here is an abundant treasure of traditional gathas (teachings) that unify meditation practice with the challenges we face in today’s world.  Enhanced features include Vietnamese music from Plum Village, video footage of Thich Nhat Hanh on mindfulness, and a text interview with the author.

Change Your Brain, Change Your Life (11 CD set) by Daniel G. Amen

BRAIN PRESCRIPTIONS THAT REALLY WORK
In this breakthrough bestseller, you'll see scientific evidence that your anxiety, depression, anger, obsessiveness, or impulsiveness could be related to how specific structures in your brain work.  You're not stuck with the brain you're born with.  Here are just a few of neuropsychiatrist Dr. Daniel Amen's surprising--and effective--"brain prescriptions" that can help heal your brain and change your life:

 To Quell Anxiety and Panic:

- Use simple breathing techniques to immediately calm inner turmoil

To Fight Depression:

- Learn how to kill ANTs (automatic negative thoughts)

To Curb Anger:

- Follow the Amen anti-anger diet and learn the nutrients that calm rage

To Conquer Impulsiveness and Learn to Focus:

- Develop total focus with the "One-Page Miracle"

To Stop Obsessive Worrying:

- Follow the "get unstuck" writing exercise and learn other problem-solving exercises

Conquering Procrastination (2 CD set) by Neil Fiore

Procrastination is something that everyone does sometimes and is a natural, manageable response to predictable forces.  Dr. Neil Fiore helps you recognize the three fears most commonly at procrastination’s core – fear of being controlled, and fear of being judged, fear of missing out on the good things in life.  By learning about them and understanding them, you can put them to work for you and not against you.

Dr. Fiore teaches you how to:

-          Make worry work for you

-          Schedule guilt-free play as a motivating method

-          Set realistic goals so that you can meet important deadlines

-          Plan for setbacks, so they don’t slow you down

-          Use the four C’s – Choice, Creating safety, Commitment, and Centering – to conquer procrastination

-          Use three-dimensional thinking to devise a step-by-step calendar of your path to achievement

The Dance of Anger – A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships (3 CD set) by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.

An insightful and prescriptive guide that shows women how to turn anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives.

While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless.  In this vivid, engaging and eminently wise work, Dr. Lerner teaches women to identify the true sources of anger and to use anger as a powerful vehicle for creating meaningful and lasting change.  The challenge of anger is at the heart of our struggle with intimacy, self-esteem, and joy. The Dance of Anger has inspired more "You changed my life" stories from both women and men than perhaps any other bestseller on the American scene today.

Fear and Other Unwanted Guests – Tackling the Anxiety, Fear, and Shame That Keeps Us from Optimal Living and Loving (3 CD set) by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.

Unhappiness, says best-selling author Harriet Lerner, is fuelled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame.  They are the uninvited guests in our lives.  When tragedy or hardship hit, they may become our constant companions.

With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear-lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us.

We learn:

  • How to have the courage to speak, act, and show up when we are anxious and afraid
  • How to deal with the fear of not being good enough and the shame of feeling essentially flawed and inadequate
  • How to stay calm and clear in an anxious, crazy workplace
  • How to manage fear and despair when things fall apart
  • How "positive thinking" helps and harms
  • How to be our best and bravest selves, even when we are terrified

No one signs up for anxiety, fear, and shame, but we can't avoid them either.  As we learn to respond to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully and move into the future with courage, clarity, humour, and hope.  Fear and Other Uninvited Guests shows us how.

Feeling Good Together:  The Secret to Making Troubled Relationships Work (7 CD set) by David D. Burns

We all know people who are hard to get along with.  It might be your spouse, mother, neighbor, friend, or colleague.  In his new book Feeling Good Together, Dr. David D. Burns describes Cognitive Interpersonal Therapy (CIT), a radically different method for developing more loving and satisfying relationships with the people you care about.

Based on twenty-five years of clinical experience and new, groundbreaking research involving more than 1,000 individuals, Feeling Good Together is filled with helpful examples and tools, such as the Relationship Satisfaction Test, the Blame Cost-Benefit Analysis, the Relationship Journal, Five Secrets of Effective Communication, the Intimacy Exercise, and more.  Using these techniques, Dr. Burns shows you how to resolve virtually any kind of relationship conflict almost instantly.

Get Out Of My Life:  But First Could You Drive Me And Cheryl To The Mall? (2 CD set) by Anthony E Wolf

Wolf updates his classic blockbuster as times change.  In 1991, the first edition of Get Out of My Life became an enormous success, selling over 300,000 copies.  The words of Dr. Wolf were so on target that parents wondered if he had placed tape recorders around their homes.  But the world has not stood still - in fact it is changing faster than ever.  While the classic struggles between parents and teenagers still remain, societal changes have brought about many new ones that parents of earlier generations never dreamed of.  Today'’ parents must deal with such ''new problems'' as their children experimenting with the latest recreational drugs; increased sexual activity at a younger age; the Internet; and a world that seems far less safe than ten years ago.  Dr. Wolf realized the importance of these ever-evolving issues, which is why he has decided to significantly revise Get Out of My Life.  Get Out of My Life provides parents with a new understanding of their teenagers so they will look at them in a whole new light, seeing them as young people on a journey to empowerment.  And most importantly, he reassures parents that everything will turn out all right.

Here’s The Deal – Don’t Touch Me (4 CD set) by Howie Mandel

A frank, funny, no-holds-barred memoir that reveals the Deal or No Deal host's ongoing struggle with OCD and ADHD-and how it has shaped his life and career.

Howie Mandel is one of the most recognizable names in entertainment-respected by his peers and beloved by audiences as the host of the enormously popular prime-time game show Deal or No Deal.  With a career that spans three decades and many different show-business platforms-he's a renowned stand-up comedian who continues to perform more than 150 sold-out shows a year, he created the award-winning TV show Bobby's World, he's starred in feature films and the hit TV series St. Elsewhere, and he's also hosted his own daytime talk show-he's one of the most versatile performers anywhere.  But there are aspects of his personal and professional life he's never talked about publicly-until now.

Eleven years ago, Mandel first told the world about his "germophobia."  He's recently started discussing his adult ADHD as well.  Now, for the first time, he reveals the details of his struggle with these challenging disorders.  He catalogs his numerous fears and neuroses and shares entertaining stories about how he has tried to integrate them into his act.  "If I'm making myself laugh," he writes, "then I'm distracted from all the other things going on in my head that are, at times, torturous."  And he speaks frankly and honestly about the ways his condition has affected his personal life-as a son, husband, and father of three.

Fans who've been dying to know "the deal" behind Mandel's remarkable rise through the show-business ranks will be rewarded with many never-before-told anecdotes, each one generously leavened with Mandel's trademark humor.  There are tales from every phase of his colorful career-from his early days as a teenage carpet salesman and aspiring stand-up comic to his stint opening for Diana Ross, his six years on St. Elsewhere, and beyond.

As heartfelt as it is hilarious, Here's the Deal: Don't Touch Me is the story of one man's effort to draw comic inspiration out of his darkest, most vulnerable places. It’s sure to please Howie Mandel's legion of fans-and provide hope to the millions who strive to succeed in spite of OCD and ADHD.

The Horse Boy – A Memoir of Healing (9 CD set) by Rupert Issaacson

When his son Rowan was diagnosed with autism, Rupert Isaacson was devastated, afraid he might never be able to communicate with his child.  But when Isaacson, a lifelong horseman, rode their neighbor's horse with Rowan, Rowan improved immeasurably.  He was struck with a crazy idea: why not take Rowan to Mongolia, the one place in the world where horses and shamanic healing intersected?

THE HORSE BOY is the dramatic and heartwarming story of that impossible adventure.  In Mongolia, the family found undreamed of landscapes and people, unbearable setbacks, and advances beyond their wildest dreams.  This is a deeply moving, truly one-of-a-kind story--of a family willing to go to the ends of the earth to help their son, and of a boy learning to connect with the world for the first time.

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk (1 CD set) by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes interaction with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding.

Down-to-earth advice on how to be more effective with your children and more supportive of yourself, with tips on everything from coping with your child’s negative feelings to setting firm limits while still maintaining goodwill.

The Man Who Loved Books Too Much - The True Story of a Thief, a Detective, and a World of Literary Obsession (5 CD set) by Allison Hoover Bartlett

Unrepentant book thief John Charles Gilkey has stole a fortune in rare books from around the country.  Yet unlike most thieves, who steal for profit, Gilkey steals for love – the love of books.  Ken Sanders is the self-appointed “bibliodick” driven to catch him.  Sanders, a lifelong rare book collector and dealer turned amateur detective, will stop at nothing to catch the thief plaguing his trade.

With a mixture of suspense, insight, and humour, Bartlett has woven this cat-and-mouse chase into a narrative that not only reveals exactly how Gilkey pulled off his crimes and how Sanders eventually caught him, but also explores the romance of books, the lure to collect them, and the temptation to steal them.

The Last Lecture (4 CD set) by Randy Pausch

A lot of professors give talks titled "The Last Lecture." While they speak, audiences can't help but mull the question: What would we want as our legacy?

When Randy Pausch was asked to give such a lecture, he didn't have to imagine it as his last, since he had recently been diagnosed with terminal cancer.  The lecture he gave "Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams" wasn't about dying.  It was about overcoming obstacles, enabling the dreams of others, and seizing every moment.  It was about living.

Randy Pausch has combined the humour, inspiration, and intelligence that made his lecture such a phenomenon and created an audio book that will be shared for generations to come.

Leave the Porch Light On:  The Story of the Famous People Players by Diane Dupuy

People in every organization need inspiration to overcome obstacles and achieve more.

Diane Dupuy triumphed in the face of numerous roadblocks related to educational and professional opportunities.  She discovered an inspirational formula that allowed her to rise to the highest level and motivate teams to great achievements.

The really interesting part of this story is that the players are for the most part mentally handicapped.  Diane herself seems to have had a disability of sorts - either Dyslexia or ADHD - going by what she describes about herself.  However she never puts a name to her own disability.

Diane describes the frustrations of teaching handicapped people how to hold a puppet, how to move to music, how to act and how to wear the black all enveloping clothing they must wear under the black light.  This includes a black hood over the head with small black screen openings for the mouth, nose and eyes.  It is easy to feel claustrophobic inside this hood.

Mandela’s Way:  Fifteen Lessons on Life, Love and Courage (4 CD set) by Richard Stengel

We long for heroes and have too few. Nelson Mandela, who recently celebrated his ninety-first birthday, is the closest thing the world has to a secular saint.  He liberated a country from a system of violent prejudice and helped unite oppressor and oppressed in a way that had never been done before.

Now Richard Stengel, the editor of Time magazine, has distilled countless hours of intimate conver­sation with Mandela into fifteen essential life lessons.  For nearly three years, including the critical period when Mandela moved South Africa toward the first democratic elections in its history, Stengel collaborated with Mandela on his autobiography and traveled with him everywhere.  Eating with him, watching him campaign, hearing him think out loud, Stengel came to know all the different sides of this complex man and became a cherished friend and colleague.

In Mandela's Way, Stengel recounts the moments in which "the grandfather of South Africa" was tested and shares the wisdom he learned: why courage is more than the absence of fear, why we should keep our rivals close, why the answer is not always either/or but often "both," how important it is for each of us to find something away from the world that gives us pleasure and satisfaction-our own garden.  Woven into these life lessons are remarkable stories-of Mandela's child­hood as the protégé of a tribal king, of his early days as a freedom fighter, of the twenty-seven-year imprison­ment that could not break him, and of his new and fulfilling marriage at the age of eighty.

This compact book is profoundly inspiring. It captures the spirit of this extraordinary man-warrior, martyr, husband, statesman, and moral leader-and spurs us to look within ourselves, reconsider the things we take for granted, and contemplate the legacy we'll leave behind.

The One Minute Manager (2 CD set) by Ken Blanchard

Success Can Be Yours With The One Minute Manager

The world's foremost producer of personal development and motivational audio programs offers you the most important minute of your career.

With more than two million hardcover copies in print, The One Minute Manager ranks as one of the most successful management books ever published.  Now, you can listen and learn the strategies of one-minute management to save time and increase your productivity whether it be in your business, your home or even managing your children.

You will learn to use three easy-to-master management techniques that have already changed the lives of millions:

One Minute Goal Setting

One Minute Praising

And

One Minute Reprimands

Deceptively simple, and measurably effective, the secrets of one-minute management will help you boost profits, productivity and purpose immediately.

Peaks and Valleys / Who Moved My Cheese (4 CD set) by Spencer Johnson

WHO MOVED MY CHEESE?
10th Anniversary Edition

Who Moved My Cheese? is an amusing and enlightening story of four characters who live in a "Maze" and look for "Cheese."  "Cheese" is a metaphor for what you want to have in life -- whether it is a good job, a loving relationship, money, a possession, health, or spiritual peace of mind.  And the "Maze" is where you look for what you want -- the organization you work in, or the family or community you live in.  When you come to see "The Handwriting on the Wall," you can discover for yourself how to deal with change, so that you can enjoy less stress and more success.

The 10th anniversary audio edition of Who Moved My Cheese? includes exclusive bonus material in which Spencer Johnson offers fresh insights on its origins, impact and applications that will help you put its powerful wisdom to work.

PEAKS AND VALLEYS
Includes a bonus interview with the author!

Peaks and Valleys is a story of a young man who lives unhappily in a valley until he meets an old man who lives on a peak, and it changes his work and life forever.  Initially, the young man does not realize he is talking with one of the most peaceful and successful people in the world.  However, through a series of conversations and experiences that occur up on peaks and down in valleys, the young man comes to understand how he can use the old man's remarkable principles and practical tools in good and bad times and becomes more calm and successful himself.

Now you can take a similar journey. In the story of Peaks and Valleys, and in the bonus audio interview with Spencer Johnson, sharing exclusive insights on how to put these principles to work -- you will discover how you can: Get out of a valley sooner; stay on a peak longer; and have more peaks and fewer valleys.

Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads:  Dealing with the Parents, Teachers, Coaches and Counselors Who Can Make — or Break — Your Child’s Future (5 CD set) by Rosalind Wiseman

What happens to Queen Bees and Wannabes when they grow up?  Even the most well-adjusted moms and dads can experience peer pressure and conflicts with other adults that make them act like they're back in seventh grade.  In Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads, Rosalind Wiseman gives us the tools to handle difficult situations involving teachers and other parents with grace.  


Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads is essential reading for parents today.  It offers us the tools to become wiser, more relaxed parents-and the inspiration to speak out, act according to our values, show humility, and set the kind of example that will make a real difference in our children's lives.

Raising Healthy Teens in an Age of Overindulgence:  Over 100 Practical Strategies to Teach Financial, Schedule and Nutritional Balance to Your Teen (4 CD set) by Dr. Karyn Gordon

Is overindulgence robbing you from a healthy relationship with your teen?  Does giving in to your teens desires deprive them of valuable life lessons, self-esteem and the fundamental yet vital art of making their own decisions?  Dr. Karyn’s 4 CD series RAISING HEALTHY TEENS IN AN AGE OF OVERINDULGENCE will empower you to grow a healthy parent / teen relationship based on boundaries and balance.

Just ask yourself, do you or someone you know:


  • Feel like you’re doing too much for your teen?

  • Are you sensing an attitude of entitlement when you say no to your teen?

  • Are you feeling like a bank on weekends, always giving out money?

  • Are you trying to get your teen to be wiser with money?

  • Do you need to learn how to model your own healthy money management principles

  • Are you trying to get your teen to be wiser with money?

  • Does your teen seem highly anxious and always on the run?

  • Are you trying to encourage your teen towards a more balanced schedule?

  • Do you wish your teen would eat better?

  • Are you wondering what you can do structurally in your home to encourage your teen to spend wiser? Schedule better? Eat healthier?

  • Are you wondering what you can do to help your teen live a more balanced life?

In these 4 CD’s you will learn:


  • Over 100 practical strategies to teach financial, schedule and nutritional balance to your teen.

  • What is overindulgence and what causes it

  • 7 Obstacles of Overindulgence that block your teen from learning financial, schedule and nutritional balance.

  • The emotional, physical and mental costs of overspending, over-scheduling, and overeating.

  • Unhealthy rewards or pay-offs of overindulgence that may be keeping you stuck in bad habits.

  • Changes you can make structurally in your home to encourage your teen towards a healthy balanced life.

Why Gender Matters – What Parents and Teachers Need to Know About the Emerging Science of Sex Differences (8 CD set) by Raymond Todd

Are boys and girls really that different?  Twenty years ago, doctors and researchers didn’t think so.  However, an avalanche of research has shown that sex differences are more significant than anybody guessed.  Gender differences are real, biologically programmed, and important to how children are raised, disciplined, and educated.

Dr. Leonard Sax addresses a host of issues, including discipline, learning, risk taking, aggression, sex, and drugs and shows how boys and girls react in predictable ways to different situations.  A leading proponent of single-sex education, Dr. Sax points out that parents and teachers would do better to recognize, understand, and make use of the biological differences that make a girl a girl and a boy a boy.